Apr 23

Apr 23 The Confidence Paradox with guest Angus Nelson

Valerie Ihsan

Main Topic: The Confidence Paradox with guest Angus Nelson

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Segment 1 (Announcements/Author Updates):

(Valerie): writing, gardening, homework from the business coach
Angus: daughter just moved to Portugal a block away

(Erick) Writing new novella. Great client meetings. Preorder up for Shadow Signals (cover from Miblart)

What are you reading?

Valerie: Shadow Signals (Erick Mertz) The Stars and Their Light (Olivia Hawker)
(Not ready to give up on them, but struggling to finish them:) Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals by Oliver Burkeman; The Year of the Puppy (Alexandra Horowitz) ; The Teller of Small Fortunes Julie Leong
Erick:
Houses of the Unholy (gn) Tender is the Flesh (horror) (Agustina Bazterrica)
(Angus:) The Art of Possibility (Rosemund Zander and Benjamin Zander)

Segment 2 (Resources/Tips/Tidbits):

Tidbit #1: automated email sequences
Tidbit #2: Notes App (writing)
Angus's tips: use AI to write; helped me see perspectives I couldn't see. Prompt it to be a bestselling NY Times editor. What would you say about this passage? (Jeff Goins was his book coach.)

Segment 3 (Main Topic):

Confidence Paradox

Waiting for something. If I was only more ... confident.

What if I just believe in myself?

The book will write you. Rising to a different level.

Let your power be seen.

Stories we tell ourselves.

1. Inputs: What are you listening to? (News, sports, agitation, layoffs) We are in failure mode, scarcity mindset, all the time. Affects how I see myself. Living by default vs. intentionally decoupling self from negative stimuli.

2. Change the environment. Give yourself the permission to be the self I want to be. Letting go. What are you holding on to from the past?

TODAY = The Only Day Actually Yours

Go from limitation to possibility.

We tell ourselves changing will take a long time and be really hard. But that's just a story. "It doesn't matter." What matters is I choose to be this.

10x is easier than 2x (Book rec by Dan Sullivan and Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Burnout based on story: not worthy, don't have what it takes.

Need for external validation.

Self love/ self grace (Reset days, cheat days, every phase of growth requires altering mindset)

5-8 weeks for transformations

3 month sprints alter the narrative, upgrade iOS in brain.

Methodology:

Experience the feeling you want to become.

Powerful motherfucker.

Culture of perpetual failure.

Embodiment:

Just Be Free.